How to tech children to tie their shoelaces.
Saul Yudelowitz BSc (Hons)
Any parent will understand the difficulty in teaching their child to tie their shoelaces. As adults we make some fundamental judgmental faults about children. While an adult does have more experience in life we should not assume that children donít understand. This is easily explained by the following example. When parents are having an argument, their child does not understand the language used or the linguistic value. They do understand the meaning so when one or both parents are upset this is sensed by the child even though they didnít understand the linguistic value.
There is a reason for this as it occurs all over the world throughout different cultures. Children typically use the right side of the brain to assess the world they live in and act on this information. Adults typically use their left side of the brain however they did use their right when they were a child. The left and right side of the brain work quite differently. One side is not more important than the other, we do need both. The issue is learning when to use what side for what environmental task. The left side is involved in focused activities like doing math, or reading off a computer screen, tasks that require you to narrow your vision and focus on a particular point.
A good example of when we use what side of the brain can be compared to the aperture of a camera setting. A small aperture setting creates a large hole that the film is exposed too while a big aperture setting creates a small hole. When we view the world through a small hole we use the left side of the brain. We can focuses on a specific point. Just imagine how stressful life would be if you only ever looked at the world through a small hole in a paper that was in front of your face. Yes using just the left side of the brain becomes very stressful however there are times when we do need to use the left side. If you take the opposite, viewing the world through a very big hole in the paper in front of your face is far more relaxing however I have to keep on pointing out the importance of knowing when to use the left and when to use the right side, this is mainly for the people who tend to use just the left side.
Many of the teaching methods employed in the first world schooling system rely on the left side of the brain. It is not true to say that the right side is ignored however the right side does not get the same amount of stimulation as the left. This is very important as the dynamic balance between the left and right side will have an influence on the childs overall ability to deal with stress and how they respond to stress. As a health care provider for the last 10 years I can tell you that stress kills you slowly. While we need to be stimulated to respond and grow stronger so as to have the ability to adapt, chronic low levels of stress will make you unhealthy at a point in life when health will be a concern for you.
Today in the first world this is an issue, if you ask an adult how they destress the answers they typically give are not destressing exercises. Another issue not taught in schools is when to use the left and when to use the right side of the brain.
First it is important to understand to stimulate the right side of the brain. Using your peripheral vision is an excellent method. So the answer to getting your child to learn how to tie their shoe lace is simple. If a child thinks mainly with the right side of the brain, teaching then from the point of view of the left side will only take longer. Teaching them from the point of the right side will work very well. This can be applied to all aspects of life; however it is important to know when to use the left side of the brain.
Place a strip of non transparent tape from the forehead to the cheek. The tape should be wide enough too not allow focused vision on a specific point and only allow peripheral vision. There should be absolutely no contact between the tape and the eye. This can be achieved by placing a cotton swab on the forehead and cheek so as to move the tape away from the eye.
Now standing behind your child, let them hold your hands so that they can feel what tying a shoelace feels like while only using their peripheral vision to view this process.
Repeat this 3-5 times with a 1 minute rest between each attempt. After this take the tape off and what just how brilliant the human brain is.
The right side of the brain usage is why children can feel what you mean although they do not understand the linguistic value of the words. Facial expression is a very big part of this and perhaps we should listen more than we talk, could this be why we have two ears and only one mouth? Different quality scientific papers put non verbal communication at between 65-80%. Letís take an average of 72.5%, thatís huge no matter how you look at it. This literally means that we should be using over 70% of our right side of the brain to communicate. If you read any book on the strategy of war they all have one common denominator.
Take out your enemyís communication system as soon as possible or provide disinformation.
Perhaps now you can see how important the right side of the brain is and how much more can be attained when using the brain in a balanced manner. While peripheral vision is one method to stimulating the right side of the brain there are many others. I have used these with Olympic athletes with very good results. Healing also takes place quickest when the right side of the brain is used and it is my opinion the placebo effect has its foundations in the right side of the brain and not the left. We as a species are still learning so much about the human body, there is still and will always be so much more to learn and understand. Use the right side, in both senses of the word.
<< Go Back